Fear and anxiety can come from caring.
Example: Smith Wigglesworth had a daughter who was deaf to the day he died and went Home. All that power in him and that could even be so?! Yep! Why? Because, he was too close to her.
Ever wonder why Jesus called his own mother “woman” instead of “mom”?
Though to the world it sounds cold, much of what we have come to know as human love is really idolatry. When we care so much about someone that anxiety over their sickness/disability comes up in us, taking our eyes off of His realities, then we are simply too close-in-heart to that person and need to step back.
Love is not feeling.
Love is doing.
To love someone means to serve them.